Voices of Domestic Violence: Essay Series Curated by Sarafina Bianco

It’s reasonable to say that everyone will have some experience with domestic violence throughout their lives. Perhaps not as a victim, but as an advocate, or as an ear for a friend or family member.

Statistics show that a woman experiences a form of domestic violence in this country every 15 seconds. Male victims are estimated to be upwards of 385,000 per year. 1 in 3 teens state that they know a friend who is in a relationship that has episodes of domestic violence.

Recently, domestic violence has taken a center stage role as violence and harassment in the NFL has become heavily reported. This summer, Brad Asmus still felt that it was okay to make a joke about beating his wife. People still use threats of violence against women as a way to shut them up when they speak out about issues they feel passionately about.

Here at The Flounce, we are a woman-run site. Our editor-in-chief has extensive experience as an advocate for victims. Our managing editor has personal experience with domestic violence. I am a survivor of a two-year nightmare.

We pride ourselves in ensuring that everyone’s voices are heard. This month, we shine the spotlight on those we feel might not get exposure when domestic violence is being discussed on the national stage. This series, curated by #domesticviolencechat organizer and author of The House on Sunset, Sarafina Bianco, includes powerful essays by the co-founder of the #NoShameProject and author Athena Moberg, and author W.A. Wehins (Domestic Abuse: When the Man is the Victim).

Each of these writers will be talking about issues close to their heart, including male on female violence, female on male violence, childhood domestic violence, being a secondary victim, and LGBT domestic violence.

Accompanying the essays are illustrations by our managing editor Rebecca Chance, and photography by artist Dina Peone.

The importance of this series shouldn’t be understated. We hope that by the end of the month, you take away what we already know: Everyone can be a victim, regardless of demographic. Men aren’t the only aggressors. Women aren’t the only victims. Children are affected with scars that drive them throughout their lives. The friends and families who suffer silently as witnesses because victims aren’t ready to make changes are just as affected by abuse.

The good news is, no matter what: Anyone can be a survivor.

Here is the first essay in our series.

Sarafina Bianco
Sarafina Bianco is an abuse survivor, retired English teacher, blogger, editor and ghostwriter from St. Louis. Fina writes about her abusive past, PTSD, healing through therapy and other forms of love and relationships at her blog, http://Sarafinabianco.com. Follow her on Twitter: @FinaBianco. Her first book, a memoir, is set to release later this Month.
  • http://theflounce.com Jen Pink

    So proud to be a part of this team. Thanks, Allison and Sarafina.

    • botenana

      Thank you for all your guidance! I am so proud that this is our first series and of the quality work we get to present this month. It just goes to show that a simple idea can really do great things if one sticks to one’s guns.

    • Sarafina Bianco

      I’m so thankful we hooked up when we did. I really think this series is going to reach so many people. It’s an honor to be a part of it.

  • http://about.me/athenamoberg Athena Moberg, CPC

    Thank you so much ladies, really. I am honored to share a small piece of my story to help raise awareness about the effects of domestic violence. The difference we make in the lives of others when we use our voices is far beyond what we will ever really know in our lifetime. I still remember every single detail about the woman who helped me take my first steps towards recovering from a life of constant abuse. Her name was Kelly and I can picture her now, even the outfit she was wearing… that was 15 years ago. We never really know what a difference we are making until years down the road. If it were not for Kelly, I would never have broken the cycle of abuse in my family. Thank you Sarafina, for inviting me to speak up and share my heart.